Anonymous asked:

Wondering why Lila lies so much tbh. I know most liars lie for multiple reasons, but with her it's almost pathological and she never even acknowledges that they're lies either? It's a bit concerning. Is it because she's an exchange student who moves around a lot which reduces her chances of making long lasting friends? Is it because of fear of isolation? Poor self image? Lack of self assurance? Is she just spoiled and finds it fun?? Lol sorry for invading ur inbox.

zoe-oneesama answered:

Some people it’s a literal compulsion. I knew a girl who’s favorite lie was that she was already married and to her first cousin, to the point where she made a fake marriage certificate to show me, even though I never cared or asked or questioned her. 

Some people are so desperate for attention that they create bold elaborate stories to make themselves more interesting, without actually focusing on what makes interpersonal relationships strong (sharing interests, showing sympathy and empathy for other people, having compatible personalities.)

When we only had Volpina, it felt like it was about instant popularity and establishing herself as Top of the Pecking Order. (that’s my interpretation, some ppl see it as a nervous girl trying to make friends). But now with hindsight and new episodes, I also think Lila is very narcissistic.

Narcissism has other symptoms other than just thinking the world of yourself. It also makes you think that you can do no wrong. When Lila was called out by Ladybug, she instantly hated her. At the time we could believe that, Ladybug went over the top in exposing her and was really harsh, anyone would be embarrassed and humiliated. But by the end of Volpina and especially in Catalyst we see that Lila not only still hates Ladybug but holds a great grudge against her, to the point of siding with a villain. She has done no reflection on the fact that her lies put her in a situation to get humiliated in the first place. The fault is entirely Ladybug’s.

Narcissists will hold onto any slight against them and stew over it, even if someone didn’t mean to hurt them or doesn’t think it was a big deal. A narcissist will hate you for years because one time you ignored a text message, so it’s not unbelievable that if Lila was a true narcissist she would be incensed by Ladybug’s audacity to expose her lie, even though it was to only one person and even though it clearly hasn’t slowed Lila down in her pursuit of that person.

It also shows up in her lies. She’s not just deaf in one ear, she’s deaf in one ear because she was saving Jagged Stone’s kitten. This one lie has at least three impacts: Pity for her disability, admiration for her heroism, and status for knowing a celebrity. A narcissist is similar to a psycho path in that they can mimic human emotions and therefore know exactly how to play with them to get what they want (actually most psychopaths are narcissists). 

When we just had s1, I could buy the Kid Who Moves A Lot and Therefore Has an Amazing Built in Defense System So She’s Not Bullied or Ostracized. But the more we see Lila the more I’m convinced she’s just self centered and loves the attention.

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